this question changed everything for me...

This one simple question has changed everything for me.​
“What would my higher self do?”

When you’re faced with a difficult situation or conflict—whether big or small, it’s easy to slip into reaction as opposed to awareness.

For example, my partner and I had a disagreement the other day. Honestly, looking back, it was so silly. A comment was said and we both interpreted it in a completely different way.
It wasn’t a big deal at all, but it took a whole two hours for us to move through it.

We were in public at the time, we were distracted by our external environment, and we weren’t able to pause and identify what was going on within us.

Does this sound familiar?

Maybe you can think of a recent conflict that escalated unnecessarily. Perhaps someone did something that was upsetting to you, and you found yourself reacting out of anger.

What would happen if, in the moment, instead of reacting you took a pause and asked yourself:
Why am I having this reaction?
What’s actually happening right now? Why am I feeling this way?
What do I need here? How can I best communicate this to this person?

It sounds simple, but as you know, when emotions are high it can be challenging to put this into practice. It’s a habit that needs to be formed. It takes time and intention. 🧘‍♀️

This is why I am always asking myself: How would my highest self show up in this situation?
Because the truth is, my highest self doesn’t actually care about the silly comment. She wouldn't even react. She would just keep on walking, doing her own thing, living in her bliss. ✨

Our human is always looking to keep us safe and protect us. Often, this means it cares way too much about issues that don’t actually matter. Or it leads us to judge and gossip about others in an attempt to fit in and feel accepted. ❌

The next time you find yourself judging someone else, looking at their outfit and thinking, What are they wearing? Why would they do that?, tune into your highest self. How would she respond to the situation?I bet she wouldn’t even care. She’d let them live their life because she’d be so focused on her own path that she wouldn’t even notice. 🔥

In order to channel your higher self, you need to get really comfortable with the vision of who this higher self is. 🔮

What does she look like? What does she feel? Who does she show up as?
Ask yourself: How am I showing up in comparison to my highest self? Rank yourself on a scale of 1-10.

It’s okay if you’re not at a 10 yet. But it’s important to recognize…

You can’t manifest your deepest desires when you’re operating from a 5.

Trust the process. Love yourself through it. Take the imperfect, inspired action. Do the work that needs to be done to heal. ❤️

I can help with that.
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Sending love,
Vanessa​
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PS: If you’re interested in visiting your past as your higher self so you can change how you show up in the present, try this exercise.