3 tips to manage your triggers

Real talk.
Just because I’m a mindset coach doesn’t mean I am not challenged by my mind.
Yes, I’ve done the work. I’ve invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into business and mindset education, coaches and training. But I’m still human.
And managing your mind is always going to be a work-in-progress, no matter who you are or what you do.
I was recently reminded of this when my Instagram following almost doubled in a short timeframe.
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Suddenly, I had 10k new followers – and it triggered me.​

​All these fears started racing through my head. I was asking myself questions like:
What are they going to think?
What if they don’t like me, and they lash out?

The thing about our triggers is: they aren’t about us, they’re engrained in us.
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In its basic definition, a trigger is when a behaviour, topic or action sparks an intense emotional reaction, regardless of your current mood.
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Knowing what your triggers are (and how to process them) is key to personal and professional growth.
And there are steps you can take to manage the mental shift around your triggers… 🙏

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1. Notice when you’re being triggered. Often, we don’t even notice when we’ve been triggered. But this self-awareness is crucial. It’s important to pay attention to your emotions, so you can recognize when you’ve been triggered, and how it makes you feel.
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2. Sit with your trigger. In addition to feeling your emotions, recognize how the trigger is making you feel physically. Is it in your throat, your chest, your hands? Acknowledge it and allow it to flow through your body.
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After my mom died, I spent years never actually noticing how it felt in my body. Feeling into the emotion made it a lot easier to release and move through.
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​3. Talk yourself through the trigger. Ask yourself: what’s really going on here? What’s coming up for you in this moment? What are you feeling this way? Whenever you’re feeling out of alignment, it’s because a thought pattern or emotional habit is unfolding in your mind that you’re not acknowledging or that goes against who you are at your core. Talk yourself through it, and look for ways you can soothe the thoughts and emotions that are coming up for you.

When was the last time you felt triggered? Did you recognize it in the moment? I’d love to hear about it.
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xoxo
- Vanessa
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P.S. Looking for quick strategies to help you strengthen your connection with self so you can feel more peace and joy in your life?
Over the next couple of weeks, I will be sending you my 5-Steps to Process and Shift Your Emotions! Keep your eyes open for it – it’s FREE